Hi! We are Ruth & Alexandra, the therapists behind this guide.

This resource has been carefully designed, inspired by more than a decade of clinical experience with individuals and couples of all configurations. Deciding whether to try to have a child or not can be one of life's greatest decisions, and an increasing number of people are feeling stuck in what to do. But you CAN make it easier for you (and your partner) to make an informed and values-based decision. This guide is packed full of reflective questions to move you closer to clarity.
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Your digital guide includes:

  • Reflective self-assessment questions

  • Exercises to examine values & priorities

  • Decision-making tools for you and your partner

Family planning is complicated, and there are many factors to consider.

Common considerations for deciding whether to have a child or not:

  • Future vision

    What does a life well-lived look like for you and your partner? What kind of lifestyle do you want and what matters most?

  • Finances

    It is getting harder for families to afford raising children. What are the financial implications on your life of having a child (or not)?

  • Capacity

    Many people may want to have a child, but struggle to feel like they have the capacity, especially if they already feel depleted or have major sources of stress.

  • Support system

    What supports would you need if you had a baby? How important is this factor in your decision-making?

  • Relationship

    To what degree are you aligned with your partner? How do you deal with stress and conflict? To what extent do you feel that your relationship can "handle" a baby?

  • Existential considerations

    Many struggle on an ethical, moral, or existential level - asking "what kind of world would I be bringing a child into?

Are you trying to decide what you want? Or what family means to you?

It is very common to experience ambivalence about wanting a child or not, and actually Reproductive Ambivalence is on the rise!

  • Find yourself going back and forth, like you could picture life either way?

  • Feeling time pressure to make this decision - but not knowing how talk to your partner?

  • Or maybe one of you is leaning towards having a baby, while the other is hesitant?

  • However you are feeling, these Conversation Starters will guide you to reflect on those important questions to help you envision what life could look like, and help you better understand the factors influencing your decision.

Take the next step today towards reproductive clarity.

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