Hi! We are Ruth & Alexandra, the therapists behind this guide.

We are counsellors and mothers, who help families figure out this very question.

This guide has been carefully designed using more than a decade of clinical experience and work with individuals and couples of all configurations. Deciding whether to try to have another child or not can be overwhelming. There is so much to consider! But you CAN make it easier on yourself and your relationship. This guide is packed full of reflective questions to guide you towards greater clarity.
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Your digital guide includes:

  • Reflective self-assessment questions

  • Relationship evaluation & debrief

  • Exercises to examine values & priorities

Family planning is complicated, and there are many factors to consider.

Common considerations for deciding whether to have another may include:

  • Previous experiences

    How was your first experience of pregnancy and/or postpartum? Did you have a difficult birth? Feel anxious or depressed?

  • Future vision

    What does a 'complete' family look like for you and your partner? How is this impacted by your own childhood? Has this changed?

  • Finances

    It is getting harder and harder for families to afford raising multiple children. What are the financial implications on your life of having another (or not?)

  • Capacity

    Many people may want another child, but struggle to feel like they have the capacity to go through another challenging experience if they already feel depleted.

  • Support system

    Do you have loved ones who live close by or are willing to come and help? How important is this factor in your decision-making?

  • Relationship

    How supported do you feel by your partner? How involved were they (the 1st or 2nd or 3rd time around?) To what extent do you feel that your relationship can "handle" another baby?

Are you trying to decide what a 'complete' family looks like?

It is very common to experience ambivalence about wanting another child or not, and actually, in Canada, the number of 1 child families are on the rise!

  • Find yourself going back and forth?

  • Wanting to talk to your partner about it but not sure where to start?

  • Or maybe one of you is leaning towards having another baby, while the other is hesitant?

  • However you are feeling, these Conversation Starters will guide you to reflect on those important questions to help you envision what life could look like, and help you better understand the factors influencing your decision.

Take the next step today towards clarity.

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